Who Am I?

Many faces but only one reveals yours truly.

Have you ever looked in the mirror and asked yourself, who am I?

When you are at work, you are diligently trying to impress your boss and co-workers. You put up a facade for eight hours a day, five days a week. You are this nice, respectable, patient, and giving person. You buy co-workers lunch or brown nose the boss for special treatment in order to acquire a promotion. You give extra handouts to anyone that needs it. You do all of these things with a smile on your face. You are known as the quintessential person that could do no wrong. This is your 40 hours, 5 days per week persona.

When you are home with your wife(husband) and family, you change instantly the minute you walk over that threshold. You are the true vision of a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Your tolerance level for any type of noise or communication is zero to none. You are barely engaged or involved with what’s going on in your family’s life. They are invisible. You treat your boss and co-workers better than your own family. These are the people that you take for granted, knowing how much they love you.  But you couldn’t care less. This is your home life persona.

When you are on social media, you comment and like pictures. You instant message women(men) you are interested in. You pretend as though you have no family and social media is the only family that matters. You spend hours on social media. You are whatever and whomever you want to be,  because many of your social media friends will never find out. You have clout and you love the attention that you receive. You escape your REAL life. This is your social media persona.

The next morning you wake up and look at yourself in the mirror and it’s the same you and routine. Rinse and Repeat.

Do you ever ask yourself, who am I? Who is the real me? Is it the me at work? Is it the me at home? Is it the me on social media?

You’re getting frustrated and tired of ‘pretending’ to be someone or something that you are not and the truth of the matter is, you really don’t know which one is the real you. You are trying to figure it out.

If you are in this situation, then take time away from all three personas to find the real you. There’s nothing more tiring than living a life not knowing who you are or pretending to be something that you are not. This is not living life to the fullest. You are  selling yourself short.

Don’t be afraid to ask yourself, who am I? Am I living the most productive and real life that I’m meant to live? Am I true to myself? If your answer is “no,” then

Start living instead of pretending! Stop disappointing yourself to appease people that really don’t matter.

Life is way too short! So I say today, start living your life as the REAL you, but most importantly, live it with peace in your heart for the sake of you.

Love, peace, and positive vibes, everyday and all day.

 

 

Tar Baby

 

 

Tar Baby is available for Pre-Order on Amazon for $2.99.

Available on e-book and print on December 01, 2018.

Target audience: Young teens and young adults.

Introduction

In society, young black girls are constantly told that in order for them to be considered “beautiful” they have to be light skinned. If you are dark-skinned, then you are marginalized, and are harshly judged and ridiculed.

Tar Baby discusses issues, such as racism, colorism, self-hate, and other stereotypes that plague the black community. Self-hate stems from a very young age, and it surrounds us through imagery. Imagery is powerful, because it attacks the subconscious and depicts black as evil, and white as everything that is good.

Tianna grew up in a household where she was called derogatory names due to her skin color; In effect, that caused her to have issues within herself growing up. As Tianna got older, she began to realize the beauty of being dark-skinned, and embraced her inner and outer self.

Tar Baby is dedicated to all the dark skin girls who have been put down because of colorism. We know your stories and struggles. We encourage you to always find beauty from within, and not look in society’s eyes to define you.

Your melanin be poppin’ and don’t you forget it!

 

Peace, love, and Postive vibes.

The Ten Second Broken Snapshots.

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Times have changed, but the old age saying of the grass being greener still remains the same.

I’m glad that I didn’t grow up during this time-period, and empathize with how difficult it must be for the younger generation to acquire relationships. The online social media frenzy takes control of every aspect of a person’s ability to ‘think’ reasonable.

Everybody can be who and what they want to be on social media. Lies, disloyalty, and facades run wild. A picture of a perfect relationship or marriage is painted with a ten second snapshot(pic). You get suckered into those daily snapshots and compare those snapshots to your REAL life. You feel inadequate and how you could be missing out on that perfect relationship that you see on social media. You begin looking at your significant other and comparing him/her to those ten second snapshots(pics). Your distorted mind starts playing tricks on you and began causing friction in your used to be stable relationship. You wonder what the hell you are doing in your current relationship and began romanticizing about those online snapshots.

It’s time to make a change and you need to do it fast! You have met that perfect guy or girl on Snapchat, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, or at work,etc. She’s cool. He’s fine. You want to get to know them better, because after all, your current stable relationship is dull and boring. You want and need excitement!

You hook up with the online love interest and it’s going all so well. You think to yourself, I want to leave my current relationship and start anew. I love being with the ‘new’ guy or girl. He/She’s perfect and exactly what I want in a man/woman. She/he understands me better than my current significant other. Your thoughts continue to fester and you need more time to be with that person to evaluate, and need assurance that the new relationship is going to last, because once you leave your current situation, there’s no turning back. Your current relationship grows more and more into turmoil because you are constantly thinking about that online love interest. You are ready to walk out that door! You can do better! I don’t need him/her because I got a better love interest!

You have left your current situation and have moved on into the new relationship. Everything is going well, except, it’s not going how you planned. You’re finally getting to spend more time with the new guy or girl, and they are starting to be totally opposite of when you were cheating. You no longer have to cheat, so the thrill of cheating is gone. You get to see the REAL person and not that ten second snapshot.

You’re right back at square one, well actually, square one is no longer available, you got rid of that square to be at another square. You’re at ground zero. You start to have remorse, buyer’s remorse. Similar to, “I shouldn’t have traded in my old car that was paid off and worked just fine for this shiny new car that I have to make monthly payments.” One day, you see your old car that you traded in, and it owns the road, just like it did when you drove it, but now, it has a NEW owner and the NEW owner has fixed it up to make it better. The old car seems much happier than when you owned it. After all, you rarely washed, cleaned, or maintained it. You had no appreciation for the old car and of how it got you back and forth to work with the turn of the key. You mistreated it. You become disgruntled. Your shiny new wheels began to look old, and quite frankly, you are tired of making those monthly payments, and that money could be put to good use elsewhere. The new car is becoming a pain to keep up with and drive. The every 3 month oil changes have increased in price along with the insurance rate.  You become unhappy, again. Just like you were before you traded in that old car.  You have come to realize, after the dusk is clearer,  your old car wasn’t the problem, you were the problem! You created the problem and now, you want your old car back!

Life is a snapshot, people are a snapshot, and both can be gone at the snap of a finger. There are no perfect people or relationships.  You spent all your time looking for the perfect relationship that doesn’t exists. You left a good relationship to capture a ten second broken snapshot. The snapshot is gone, just like your old paid off car. You feel even more alone and unhappy than before.  You log into your online social media account and see that your ten second snapshots are joined into the warped cycle that you got sucked into. You fell for the ten second broken snapshots, just like thousands of other people that are addicted to social media facade. Your misery has lots of online company!

The moral of this story is, to capture and treasure the REAL snapshots in your life. Put more effort and appreciation into what you have, instead of looking for something that doesn’t exists. Build REALITY snapshots that will last a lifetime.

Peace, love, and Positive Vibes!