We have heard the old adage, “get the monkey off your back” but like what does it mean when you don’t have a monkey/animal on your back? Well, technically, you do and everyone does, but many will ignore them and continue to hang on to the monkey(s) until their dying days. The monkey(s) I’m referring to are bitterness, resentment, hate, fear, envy, or whatever is causing you unhappiness. It’s time to acknowledge those monkeys and transition into a better you by forgiving people who have done you dirty, whether it’s your parents, spouse, significant other, friends, family, co-worker, pastor, and the list goes on. There are many monkey(s) that fit the description, so we are going to call them all out and start our healing journey TODAY.
Let’s start with childhood, you didn’t have the greatest parents in the world. They were abusive, drug addicts, abandonment, neglectful, or piss poor excuses as any type of role models. Basically, being raised by your parents, the odds were stacked against you. I get it, you have Mommy and/or Daddy issues but let’s turn the early days of your rearing into something positive, had you not been raised in that manner, would you be the person you are today? Had you not been raised in poverty, would you have a fear of failure that has taught you to budget, save, and be more financially responsible as an adult? Would you be a go-getter? Whether your answer is yes, no, or maybe, it’s time to get the monkey(s) off your back.
Your significant other was a cheater, abuser, a no good SOB. (S)He caused your drug addiction, low self-esteem, or demise. You wish you had never met the grimy, narcissistic, controlling, self-absorbed, cheap, fill in(the blank) any type of adjective to describe the person. Yup, we all have been the fool for a fool. But what did you learn from the toxic relationship and did it give you the tools necessary to grow and handle future encounters?
You can choose your friends but not your family. In fact, your family has caused you more heartaches, headaches, and ass aches than any known foe. The truth of the matter is, you still love them but don’t like their actions. And it’s a little harder to forgive or get the monkey off your back because after all, they are FAMILY, BLOOD, and RELATED to you.
Somebody, somewhere, and somehow needs to read this blog and realize that it’s time to address the monkey(s) and get them off your back once and for all. Let’s be realistic, this is not a quickie, a sprint, or relay, the process is a step-by-step marathon depending on how deeply you have been hurt. In fact, it probably won’t ever happen, but, it’s not because it can’t, it’s due to the fact that YOU won’t let it. You continue to feed the beast that’s robbing your happiness, sucking all your positive energy, and short-changing your blessings. The monkey is you, self-destructing.
The journey has been long, hard, dreadful, and you are tired of being sick and tired. You are waving the white flag, not to surrender to the monkey(s), oh no, you are doing it for you. You will no longer succumb to the resentment, anger, frustration, and sleepless nights trying to control the uncontrollable. You are taking back your strength, energy, and freedom of life to heal your mental state. You are looking in the mirror TODAY, RIGHT NOW, and saying, “I LOVE ME AND I’M GOING TO SHOW ME HOW MUCH.” And you are going to continue to do this daily until it manifest. You will do this for each and every monkey. You will take back your power and use it for betterment. You will love you from this day forward so that you can spread the love to those around you, and it becomes a domino effect. You will free yourself from the monkey(s). It’s long overdue, and the time is now.
Have a nice life,
GET THE GETTIN’, monkey(s).
Live, love, laugh and positive vibes until next time.